EP. 212 — Sasheer Is Recovering From Their Vegas Trip!

 

Nicole & Sasheer [00:00:11] Hi!

 

Nicole [00:00:19] Wow. Harmony.

 

Sasheer [00:00:21] Yes.

 

Nicole [00:00:21] Was it?

 

Sasheer [00:00:22] Yeah.

 

Nicole [00:00:23] Okay. I’m a little scratchy.

 

Sasheer [00:00:25] Why?

 

Nicole [00:00:27] I think it’s because when we went to Vegas.

 

Sasheer [00:00:37] Yeah. Yeah. We did so much.

 

Nicole [00:00:38] So much. I haven’t recovered. I woke up exhausted.

 

Sasheer [00:00:42] I’m still exhausted. Yeah.

 

Nicole [00:00:44] I’m so tired.

 

Sasheer [00:00:45] I slept in pretty late today.

 

Nicole [00:00:46] I slept pretty late today. Also, when we got back from Vegas that day… I have a spare bedroom that I have kind of turned into a closet because I only live with Clyde–just the two of us. The only man in my life who hasn’t left me. And I say that to him often.

 

Sasheer [00:01:11] You gotta let Clyde know you appreciate him.

 

Nicole [00:01:12] Yeah, he just cocks his head at me.

 

Sasheer [00:01:14] He’s like, “I don’t know. I don’t have a choice.’

 

Nicole [00:01:17] “She seems sad.” So, I have, like, a bookshelf of wigs and then a bookshelf of purses. So, I put all of those in my room. So, I was just walking back and forth, and that was tiresome. And then I showed you that– I showed you the picture. Words are hard1 I showed you the picture–there’s just a mound of shit next to my bed. And I woke up today and looked at it, and it made me tireder. Is that a word?

 

Sasheer [00:01:45] More tired.

 

Nicole [00:01:45] More tired.

 

Sasheer [00:01:46] Yeah, I can imagine because you’re like, “I have to do that.” I still haven’t unpacked all six months of my stuff from my suitcases, and they’re next to my bed. And that makes me tired again, too, because I’m like, “Ugh, I gotta put this away.”

 

Nicole [00:02:01] I mean, six months is… I’m having trouble with my S’s today. Oh man. Six months of stuff.

 

Sasheer [00:02:14] There you go.

 

Nicole [00:02:15] Can you say that fast?

 

Sasheer [00:02:16] Six months of stuff. Six months of stuff. Six months of stuff.

 

Nicole [00:02:18] So it’s just me?

 

Sasheer [00:02:20] Well, yeah, I can see why It’d be tricky. It’s a lot of S’s in there.

 

Nicole [00:02:23] Judith? Six months of stu– Uh oh. Six months…

 

Judith [00:02:27] Six months of stuff. Six months of stuff. Six months of stuff.

 

Nicole [00:02:30] Jordan?

 

Jordan [00:02:31] Six months of stuff. Six months of stuff. Six months of stuff. I did get twisted.

 

Sasheer [00:02:36] That last one.

 

Nicole [00:02:36] Okay, good.

 

Sasheer [00:02:38] It’s kind of like a vocal warm up, like “the lips, the teeth, the tip of the tongue.” Six months of stuff. Six months of stuff. Six months of stuff.

 

Nicole [00:02:45] Your face did an incredible thing that… I don’t know. Your mouth just, like, was on a mission.

 

Sasheer [00:02:55] That’s what you’re supposed to do when you’re, like, trying to warm up your mouth. Six months of stuff. Six months of stuff.

 

Nicole [00:03:01] Your face is so funny right now.

 

Sasheer [00:03:03] Gotta work those facial muscles.

 

Nicole [00:03:05] Six months of stuff. Six months of stuff. Red leather, yellow leather. Red leather, yellow weather. Rubber baby buggy bumpers. I think sometimes it’s hard for me to talk because I have a little tongue.

 

Sasheer [00:03:17] Oh, interesting. I can see that. The tongue is a big part of talking.

 

Nicole [00:03:21] Yeah, I think it was supposed to be clipped when I was a baby because underneath is attached closer to the tip of my tongue. And I think you’re supposed to clip it, so your tongue gets longer, and you have an easier time talking. I could be making this up, but I feel like I read that somewhere.

 

Sasheer [00:03:40] I’ve never heard of this.

 

Nicole [00:03:42] Judith?

 

Judith [00:03:43] I’m looking it up, but Kimmie is nodding her head “yes.”

 

Nicole [00:03:47] Okay.

 

Kimmie [00:03:48] As someone who’s about to have a baby, you hear a lot about tongue ties. And that is a thing. And it can affect babies and it can affect speech and it can affect feeding. So, if you think you have a tongue tie, you might.

 

Nicole [00:03:58] Oh my God. And my parents just didn’t care about me.

 

Kimmie [00:04:00] It’s a newer thing that people deal with. It’s something that wasn’t dealt with when all of us were little. It’s, like, the new thing in the past five, ten years.

 

Nicole [00:04:09] Oh, wow.

 

Sasheer [00:04:09] Could you get your tongue clipped now, or is that not safe?

 

Kimmie [00:04:14] Yeah, it’s a procedure. So, you could do it. If it was affecting your speech, you could talk to a speech therapist and see if they think it’s important. But if it’s not getting in the way of anything, they probably won’t do it.

 

Nicole [00:04:24] Just when I’m, like, tired. Like, right now, I feel me really moving my tongue to try to enunciate. It’s just so little.

 

Sasheer [00:04:36] Yeah. I had a frenectomy.

 

Jordan [00:04:42] I did, too.

 

Sasheer [00:04:42] Oh!

 

Nicole [00:04:43] What is that?

 

Sasheer [00:04:44] There was skin inside my upper lip that was attached to my gum. I guess it was kind of like the… what’s under your tongue. It’s just a little… string of skin. I don’t know. I’m trying to remember what the issue was. I guess my lip wasn’t able to, like, disconnect that much from my teeth and my gums. Why did you get it, Jordan? Do you remember?

 

Jordan [00:05:13] So I got it when I was getting my wisdom teeth out. And I was just told that if I didn’t get the surgery, my two front teeth would constantly push each other out again because I had, like, a tiny gap. And so, they told me that not only was it skin, but it’s also, like, a tiny bit of muscle that they also removed. So that’s why there’s an actual space. When I was younger, there wasn’t a space when my teeth were together, but now you can see a space.

 

Sasheer [00:05:44] Oh. Maybe it’s the same thing because I also had a gap between my two front teeth.

 

Jordan [00:05:49] It’s your muscle naturally wanting to pull those front teeth apart.

 

Nicole [00:05:53] Wow. We’re really learning about mouths today.

 

Jordan [00:05:59] That surgery sucks because, like, you guys know how often I smile and laugh. I had to go like this and hold my lip down for, like, two weeks while it healed.

 

Sasheer [00:06:08] I got sent to school after that surgery. I don’t know why. Yeah, they, like, put gauze under my lip and sent me to class. And I was like, bloody.

 

Nicole [00:06:18] Ew!

 

Sasheer [00:06:18] I don’t know why that was the decision.

 

Nicole [00:06:20] I would have been like, “Send her home! She’s bleeding all over us.”

 

Sasheer [00:06:23] I mean, someone should have sent me home.

 

Nicole [00:06:26] That’s wild. After I got my wisdom teeth taken out, I couldn’t laugh just because it hurt. And every time I laughed, I’d be, “Ha! Ow! Ha!” And then the fact that it hurt would make me laugh harder. And then I learned if I just held my face, I could go, “Ha ha ha,” and it wouldn’t hurt as much. But, boy, I love to giggle.

 

Sasheer [00:06:51] Yeah.

 

Nicole [00:06:51] I think it’s maybe my favorite, top one pastime.

 

Sasheer [00:06:54] Top one of all one things.

 

Nicole [00:06:58] I guess that’s not how people phrase it. They say, like…

 

Sasheer [00:07:01] “Top five.” “Top three.”

 

Nicole [00:07:03] One out of one, baby! Let me giggle. I can’t get over how there was no hot people in Las Vegas.

 

Sasheer [00:07:11] Yeah, that was really unfortunate.

 

Nicole [00:07:13] Where were they hiding?

 

Sasheer [00:07:15] I have no idea.

 

Nicole [00:07:17] I was so mad because over three days, not one person hit on me. But then you brought it up–you were like, “But would you have wanted any of these people to hit on you?” The answer is simply no.

 

Sasheer [00:07:28] Yeah. No lookers. It’s really unfortunate.

 

Nicole [00:07:30] Truly wild. I did get body slammed by a man.

 

Sasheer [00:07:36] Yes. A man walked by you, and, I guess, his shoulder…?

 

Nicole [00:07:41] This man was swinging his arms like he wasn’t the Jolly Green fucking Giant. And he swung one of his 200-pound arms into me, and his shoulder also hit me. And it was as if I was being tackled by a linebacker. And he was just like, “Sorry.” What’d I do? I just screamed.

 

Sasheer [00:08:01] You screamed, and it crescendoed so that he knew his transgressions. You went, “Ow!” Like, you screamed it at him.

 

Nicole [00:08:11] I needed him to know, so he didn’t hurt other people.

 

Sasheer [00:08:15] I don’t think that was his takeaway. He was probably like, “That woman’s crazy.”

 

Nicole [00:08:18] He had a weapon of mass destruction: His big fucking arms.

 

Sasheer [00:08:22] I also feel like in Vegas in general–maybe it’s because there’s so much to look at–no one knew where they were going. People were wandering, like, weaving, and almost running into me. It was annoying.

 

Nicole [00:08:33] It was very annoying. And it very much felt like Disney. There was just big babies in strollers. Like, there were so many children. I was like, “That baby is too big for that stroller. You gotta take that big child out and let it walk.”

 

Sasheer [00:08:47] Yeah. But I wanted to be pushing a stroller, too. We walked so much.

 

Nicole [00:08:49] Yeah, we did. Hold on. I know how many steps we did.

 

Sasheer [00:08:53] Oh, yes, please.

 

Nicole [00:08:53] Because my phone tells me. Okay. Steps. Let’s get into it. So, Friday, we did 7,995 steps.

 

Sasheer [00:09:10] That’s the first day we got there.

 

Nicole [00:09:11] That’s the very first day. Second day, 10,645.

 

Sasheer [00:09:17] That’s even more!

 

Nicole [00:09:18] And then 8,805.

 

Sasheer [00:09:20] Good Lord.

 

Nicole [00:09:21] Isn’t that wild? And then yesterday, 6,000 steps.

 

Sasheer [00:09:26] Damn.

 

Nicole [00:09:26] We stepped every way.

 

Sasheer [00:09:28] We stepped everywhere.

 

Nicole [00:09:28] And here’s my… I think I’ve asked this before, but how are you supposed to get 10,000 steps every day if you’re not at Vegas or an auto show? How are people doing it?

 

Sasheer [00:09:40] I don’t know. I mean, I guess they’re consciously being like, “I’m going to take a walk.”

 

Nicole [00:09:45] How long is that walk?

 

Sasheer [00:09:46] I don’t know.

 

Nicole [00:09:47] We walked all day to get 10,000 steps. Are people walking all day? Do they have jobs?

 

Sasheer [00:09:54] Or maybe, like, they walk their dog or, like, a nighttime walk? I don’t know. Lots of people walk in my neighborhood because they’re all old, and they’re like, “I’m going to take a stroll.” And I have a nice neighborhood to walk in.

 

Nicole [00:10:05] You do.

 

Sasheer [00:10:05] And I think I took a walk one time, and I was like, “I’m so bored.” And then, like, there’s not a lot of good reception in the area, so, like, I couldn’t, like, do anything on my phone. I was like, “Oh, God. I want to go home.”

 

Nicole [00:10:18] “I want to go home; I hate this walk!”

 

Sasheer [00:10:21] “So boring.”

 

Nicole [00:10:21] I think walking is boring as well. Like, I’m just walking with no destination. Just aimlessly walking for what? My cardiovascular system?

 

Sasheer [00:10:30] “For my health?”

 

Nicole [00:10:34] “This does shit for my health?” Yeah. I hate walking. It’s so dumb.

 

Sasheer [00:10:38] Yeah.

 

Nicole [00:10:39] But I gotta take Clyde on his walks, and he tells me what kind of walk he wants to go on. So, there’s three different directions we can go in. And one is, like, to the cul-de-sac. One is around the block. One is the other way around the block; I’ll take him down a different path. And then he kind of, like, when we go outside, is really excited. And he’ll pull three different ways, and then he chooses. He chooses his own adventure.

 

Sasheer [00:11:05] Oh. That’s fun.

 

Nicole [00:11:05] Yeah. Can I tell you something about Clyde? It’s changed our life.

 

Sasheer [00:11:08] Oh.

 

Nicole [00:11:11] I now wipe his feet after we get in from the walk because I take off my shoes in my house. I make my guests take off their shoes. He doesn’t have shoes? He has feet.

 

Sasheer [00:11:23] Yeah.

 

Nicole [00:11:24] And he goes outside in his feet.

 

Sasheer [00:11:25] And then comes right inside.

 

Nicole [00:11:27] And then jumps on the couch. That would be like me jumping on my couch like Tom Cruise. And I’m not Tom. And so now I have these little, like, pads where I wipe his feet.

 

Sasheer [00:11:39] That’s very smart.

 

Nicole [00:11:39] Yeah. And I really like it.

 

Sasheer [00:11:41] Would you ever get shoes for Clyde?

 

Nicole [00:11:44] See, the thought is yes. But the actionable part of me is like, “No. We’re going to stop before every walk to strap him in?”

 

Sasheer [00:11:55] I mean, I guess so. Clyde barely stays still for the leash. I can’t imagine him being like, “Now, put the right front one on. And then the left.”

 

Nicole [00:12:03] ”Get the back.” He also doesn’t like clothes, which is like, “Come on, you don’t want to be a fashionista? You have a purple tail. People are already staring at you. You don’t want to put on a cute, little striped shirt to match me?”

 

Sasheer [00:12:17] Aw.

 

Nicole [00:12:19] And he’s like, “No, I certainly do not.”

 

Sasheer [00:12:21] He’s like, “I came with clothes. This is my clothing.”

 

Nicole [00:12:24] He did. He came with clothes and shoes.

 

Sasheer [00:12:27] He’s like, “This is enough. I know enough.”

 

Nicole [00:12:31] “Take me for what I am.”

 

Sasheer [00:12:32] “So trying to change me.”

 

Nicole [00:12:34] “Don’t change me! I’m a dog!”

 

Sasheer [00:12:37] I do think those videos are funny of dogs in shoes. And they, like, don’t know how to walk in them, and they’re just, like, stomping really high. Those are fun.

 

Nicole [00:12:45] That is fun. I do love a dog video.

 

Sasheer [00:12:48] Love a dog video.

 

Nicole [00:12:48] I love animals. The older I get, the more I love an animal.

 

Sasheer [00:12:53] I was in a bar, and there–

 

Nicole [00:13:00] When?

 

Sasheer [00:13:01] Maybe two weeks ago.

 

Nicole [00:13:03] Okay.

 

Sasheer [00:13:06] It was actually a bar of a movie theater because I had that screening.

 

Nicole [00:13:11] Oh, okay.

 

Sasheer [00:13:12] And then we were like, “Let’s go find a place to sit down and have a drink.” And there’s a bar in the theater, and we’re like, “We’re never leaving this theater!” And on the TV, there was something called Happy TV, and it was just, like, cute dog videos. It was really like my For You page on Instagram. It’s, like, dog videos, cat videos, people falling. And I was like, “I love this! I gotta get Happy TV.”

 

Nicole [00:13:37] “I gotta get Happy TV.” I hope it’s an app.

 

Sasheer [00:13:40] I hope so.

 

Nicole [00:13:41] I want you to get Happy TV.

 

Sasheer [00:13:43] I really want it.

 

Nicole [00:13:44] Do you remember when we were walking in Vegas–I won’t stop talking about it–and you went, “Otters!” and I looked over and there’s just a TV at a bar, nobody’s sitting at this bar, with just, like, the Discovery Channel of otters having a nice time?

 

Sasheer [00:13:59] Yeah, I was like, “Ooh. Cute.”

 

Nicole [00:14:01] “Otters!”

 

Sasheer [00:14:07] “Otters!” I had to let you know there’s some cute stuff happening.

 

Nicole [00:14:09] I know. It was nice that you told me.

 

Sasheer [00:14:11] Yeah. I’ll always be on the lookout for cute stuff.

 

Nicole [00:14:13] Yeah. I love cute stuff. Sometimes I’m like, “Should I get more animals?” But then it’s like you go away, you got to find animal care. It’s a lot.

 

Sasheer [00:14:24] Yeah. It seems like a lot.

 

Nicole [00:14:25] I do want a bird, though. But on my to-do list is “go touch a bird.”

 

Sasheer [00:14:31] Oh, “go touch a bird.”

 

Nicole [00:14:32] Yeah. Like, go to a pet store and touch a bird because I think that’s the only way I can touch a bird.

 

Sasheer [00:14:39] I guess so. I think we have had this conversation. Maybe, like, a habitat? Is there a bird sanctuary you can go to?

 

Nicole [00:14:51] I don’t think I wrote that down in my to-do list.

 

Sasheer [00:14:54] Yeah. Can you look up bird sanctuaries in LA? There probably is a place where you can, like, hold one.

 

Jordan [00:15:03] There’s one in Griffith Park.

 

Nicole [00:15:06] In the park?

 

Sasheer [00:15:07] Oh, yes. Bird sanctuary.

 

Nicole [00:15:10] Then can I hold a bird?

 

Sasheer [00:15:13] It doesn’t look like anyone runs that one. Maybe that’s just like you go look at them.

 

Nicole [00:15:18] Okay. I’m trying to touch one. Touch some birds.

 

Sasheer [00:15:24] You definitely shouldn’t phrase it like that when you show up because that sounds inappropriate. “Let me touch that bird.”

 

Nicole [00:15:29] “Come on, let me touch that bird.” I want to be like the lady in Home Alone 2 where she’s got all the pigeons on her. But I want parrots–exotic animals.

 

Sasheer [00:15:40] When I lived in Brooklyn, there was this guy who came to the park every day with a bunch of parrots. And he’d bring his own tree. It was, like, a staff.

 

Nicole [00:15:50] It was like BYOT?

 

Sasheer [00:15:58] Yeah. It was, like, a little, fake stand that looked like a tree. And he just kind of, like, set it up. And then the parrots could fly around the park, but they’d always come back to that little tree.

 

Nicole [00:16:08] Wow. The power. Oh my God. Yeah. I just want a parrot. I would train it to go, “I love you.” It’d be nice to hear it every day. Somebody loves me.

 

Sasheer [00:16:26] You can get those buttons that dogs push and get Clyde to say, “I love you” all the time.

 

Nicole [00:16:30] Oh, yeah. Maybe that’ll be the only thing I teach him.

 

Sasheer [00:16:32] He’s just like, “This is the only option? ‘I love you’? I want to tell her I’m hungry.”

 

Nicole [00:16:38] And then he just stops pressing it. “Clyde, you don’t love me anymore?”

 

Sasheer [00:16:42] Oh no. I think I’ve talked about this. I have, like, a lot of crows in my yard. I feel like I should befriend them.

 

Nicole [00:16:50] I think you should.

 

Sasheer [00:16:52] And, like, I don’t know. I think you can make them get you stuff.

 

Nicole [00:16:58] What are you trying to get?

 

Sasheer [00:17:00] I don’t know! I’ve seen people be like, “Oh, yeah, my crows get me money.” I don’t think they’re pickpocketing, but I think there’s, like, loose money on the street or something and they’ll pick it up and bring it.

 

Nicole [00:17:09] I want them to be pickpocketing. I would love to be pickpocketed by a crow. That would be so funny. I told you, leave them gifts because they were taking the stuffing out of your thing, right?

 

Sasheer [00:17:22] Yeah. Out of my furniture.

 

Nicole [00:17:23] I think you should, like, go to the, like, Michael’s and get, like, stuffing–furniture stuffing–and leave it for them.

 

Sasheer [00:17:30] Yeah.

 

Nicole [00:17:30] Maybe some berries. Do crows like berries?

 

Sasheer [00:17:34] Oh, Jordan, what’s going on?

 

Jordan [00:17:37] It says “you should offer them healthy foods. And since you want to gain their trust, find out what these crows prefer. You can give them dry or wet cat or dog food, unsalted peanuts, boiled eggs, scraps from your kitchen, fruits, vegetables, and meat.

 

Nicole [00:17:54] Wow.

 

Sasheer [00:17:55] And yeah, I am surprised that they eat meat. I definitely saw one–not in my yard, thank God–trying to pick up, like, a mouse carcass or something on the street. And I was like, “Oh. Okay. I thought you guys were maybe, like, eating bugs and stuff.” They are eating rodents.

 

Nicole [00:18:13] They’re eating rodents and berries. Just like us. Just kidding. I’ve never eaten a rodent.

 

Sasheer [00:18:20] I thought you were gonna be like, “I would never eat a berry.”

 

Nicole [00:18:23] No, the thought of, like, a barbecued rat is upsetting.

 

Sasheer [00:18:27] Why barbecue?

 

Nicole [00:18:28] I don’t know. To, like, put them on a skewer and rotate them like a chicken.

 

Sasheer [00:18:39] No. Yeah, I wouldn’t want any version of a rat.

 

Nicole [00:18:41] No. I don’t think they’re meaty enough–one. Two–those tiny, little bones? It’s like a fishbone. It’s tough.

 

Sasheer [00:18:52] They get caught in your mouth.

 

Nicole [00:18:53] Yeah. Then I’m like, “Uch, there’s a mouse bone in my mouth. Ew!”

 

Sasheer [00:18:57] I think I’d just be thinking about all the… Just how nasty they are.

 

Nicole [00:19:01] Yeah, they are gross. Did you ever have to go to Poricy Park? No. Maybe that’s me specific. Growing up… It was in Jersey, so I don’t think you ever went.

 

Sasheer [00:19:12] Did I ever have to go to Poricy Park in Jersey? No one ever made me.

 

Nicole [00:19:19] There was this weird park that we had to take field trips to. And you took, like, owl pellets and then took them apart. And I was like, “Why?”

 

Sasheer [00:19:28] You mean their poop?

 

Nicole [00:19:29] I guess. Like, their poop or their…I don’t know what an owl pellet is to this day, but we’d have to, like, take out mouse bones and stuff.

 

Sasheer [00:19:38] Oh, that’s their poop, yeah.

 

Nicole [00:19:39] And I don’t know why we did that. Poricy Park. Is it in New Jersey? Oh, I remember that red barn. In that red barn, we would have to dissect fucking owl pellets. And I don’t know why. Like, was that the zoology track, and that’s all we got?

 

Sasheer [00:19:58] Maybe.

 

Nicole [00:19:59] And, like, all the little freak kids who were into that became zoo people.

 

Sasheer [00:20:01] Maybe. Maybe. Yeah. I don’t know what the lesson would be. Just, like, the cycle of life?

 

Nicole [00:20:11] Maybe. Kimmie, is there, like, a thing that tells you what they do at Poricy Park?

 

Judith [00:20:18] “The mission of Poricy Park Conservancy is to preserve and enrich the park as a nature preserve and educate the community about its historic and recreational resources.” And then “about the Conservancy…” So, it’s a “nonprofit organization that depends primarily on members for financial support to keep the Conservancy at the pinnacle of environmental education, historical preservation, and natural beauty.”

 

Nicole [00:20:43] Is there anything about owl pellets in this? I feel like we were there, like, twice. I really did not enjoy my time. It was so gross. And I don’t think we got gloves.

 

Sasheer [00:20:57] Oh no.

 

Nicole [00:20:57] I was like, “I know I’m a kid and we play in dirt, but, like, this is a lot. This is not for me.”

 

Sasheer [00:21:02] Unsanitary. Maybe the person who ran it, like, has, like, a weird collection. He’s like, “I just can’t go through all these owl pellets myself. I need little kid hands to dissect them. Give me them mouse bones.”

 

Nicole [00:21:17] “Give me them bones.” So gross.

 

Judith [00:21:21] So they have guided hikes for owls. So, “get out and stretch your legs. Great for all ages. Each week, a new topic will be discussed along with the trails. This week, we’ll look at the owls and examine owl pellets. Pre-registration is recommended, but walk-ins are also welcome.” So, they do this.

 

Sasheer [00:21:39] They do this.

 

Jordan [00:21:41] But I believe an owl pellet is the things that their body can’t digest–they actually puke up.

 

Nicole [00:21:51] They had us fucking playing in owl puke?

 

Jordan [00:21:51] Well, I think it’s more from a scientific standpoint because you have to dig through. You have to find the bones. I also did it in school but not at a park. I didn’t go to a random park to go through a pellet. But it’s kind of like if you dissect a frog. Instead of doing the frog, I think you’re doing this owl pellet, so you can be like, “Oh, cool. I see this bone and that bone.” But yeah.

 

Nicole [00:22:11] And what is the purpose of dissecting a frog?

 

Jordan [00:22:14] You learn about internal organs.

 

Sasheer [00:22:17] But they don’t even have our organs, do they?

 

Nicole [00:22:19] No. They got frog shit.

 

Sasheer [00:22:20] Yeah. Why do you need to know the ins and outs of a frog?

 

Nicole [00:22:24] For the little freak kids. They’re like, “Let me cut some up!” I don’t know.

 

Sasheer [00:22:29] Those poor frogs.

 

Nicole [00:22:30] Yeah.

 

Jordan [00:22:32] Well, some people have done pigs also.

 

Nicole [00:22:33] That’s terrible! In high school?

 

Judith [00:22:37] Yeah, I think I’ve done a pig heart.

 

Nicole [00:22:41] What? What are we doing in education? Sending kids to play with owl pellets? Dissecting frogs? This is sick. Teach me about taxes!

 

Sasheer [00:22:51] Truly. I can confidently say there’s nothing in my life as an adult that required me to know how to dissect an animal.

 

Nicole [00:23:03] No. Nothing at all. No audition I’ve ever been to has been like, “What have you dissected?” I’m like, “I memorized these lines.”

 

Sasheer [00:23:11] You know what? Maybe it would be helpful for CSI.

 

Nicole [00:23:16] Maybe. But yeah, I have never used that skill. I think I opted out of dissecting the frog.

 

Sasheer [00:23:23] I don’t remember that being an option in my school.

 

Nicole [00:23:26] I know it happened. I just didn’t go to class that day. I didn’t go to class a lot of days.

 

Sasheer [00:23:32] You’re like, “I’m not comfortable with this, and there’s no frogs today.”

 

Nicole [00:23:35] I was like, “Yeah, I’m just not comfortable with class. I came to school to make friends. You know? I was there to make friends. I wasn’t there for learning.” I came out fine.

 

Sasheer [00:23:47] You came out great.

 

Nicole [00:23:48] Thank you. God, I love this jumpsuit that you’re wearing.

 

Sasheer [00:23:52] Thank you.

 

Nicole [00:23:52] People listening, you can’t see it.

 

Sasheer [00:23:55] Do you want to describe it?

 

Nicole [00:23:57] No. It’s a black base. And then we got mushrooms, some purple, some pink, some green orangey… Yeah. It’s cute. Where is it from?

 

Sasheer [00:24:07] FARM Rio.

 

Nicole [00:24:08] God, I love FARM Rio. I wish they would make plus sizes.

 

Sasheer [00:24:23] Do you wanna do a quiz?

 

Nicole [00:24:25] Nope. I want to talk more about FARM Rio and their size problem because they make oversized things that do fit me. And if you can make something oversized, just make, like, a couple sizes bigger–just do it.

 

Sasheer [00:24:36] It doesn’t make sense.

 

Nicole [00:24:37] FARM Rio, please! Please! Also, re-issue this mushroom jumpsuit, and do it in plus size. Now we can do a quiz. I’ve said my piece.

 

Sasheer [00:24:46] Great.

 

Nicole [00:24:48] You know what I really want?

 

Sasheer [00:24:50] What do you want?

 

Nicole [00:24:50] Shiny leggings. Purple, shiny leggings.

 

Sasheer [00:24:54] I’m surprised you don’t already have some.

 

Nicole [00:24:55] Me, too. I can’t find the perfect shade of purple.

 

Sasheer [00:24:59] What kind of purple do you want?

 

Nicole [00:25:00] Maybe a lilac. Or maybe… Not, like, a dark purple, but, like, in the middle? Like a deep lav.

 

Sasheer [00:25:07] A deep lav.

 

Nicole [00:25:08] You know?

 

Sasheer [00:25:09] Yeah, I like that.

 

Judith [00:25:12] All right, so in terms of quizzes we have, I Can Actually Guess Your Zodiac Based on the Ingredients You Use to Bake Your Cake, Create Your Dream Life Using Unlimited Funds. And We’ll Give You a Disney Animal to Adopt as a Pet, I’ll Guess if You Prefer Hot Weather or Cold Weather Based on What Animals You Choose, What’s Your Party Personality? It’s long. Psst. I Know Your Soul Mate’s Name. Pick Your Favorite Meals and I’ll Reveal.

 

Nicole [00:25:34] That one.

 

Judith [00:25:40] Okay.

 

Sasheer [00:25:41] I like that it starts with “Psst,” like it’s a secret. “Psst. Hey, kid. Come here. Got your soul mate’s name over here.”

 

Nicole [00:25:49] I wonder ’cause I had an appointment with the Reverend Justin Terry, who was featured on The Real Housewives of Potomac. And I was, I think, going through the whole season, and I couldn’t walk because of my anky. And I was like, “I must do a session with him. He’s great.” But he told me the first letter of the person I’m supposed to be dating. And I wonder if this matches that. I wonder if BuzzFeed knows the same thing.

 

Sasheer [00:26:27] Okay. The Reverend is a…

 

Nicole [00:26:30] He’s a medium.

 

Sasheer [00:26:31] Oh, okay. Great.

 

Nicole [00:26:32] And he was really great. I can’t recommend him enough. Okay. “Choose a breakfast!”

 

Sasheer [00:26:42] “Pancakes.”

 

Nicole [00:26:42] “Avocado toast with egg.”

 

Sasheer [00:26:44] “Yogurt with granola.”

 

Nicole [00:26:46] “Breakfast sandwich.”

 

Sasheer [00:26:48] “Waffles.”

 

Nicole [00:26:48] “Smoothie bowl.”

 

Sasheer [00:26:49] “Muffins.”

 

Nicole [00:26:51] Who eats just a muffin? “Toast.”

 

Sasheer [00:26:52] Who eats just toast?

 

Nicole [00:26:52] Yeah, like, I’m just gonna be sad? Pop that in the toaster oven.

 

Sasheer [00:26:58] Some dry toast.

 

Nicole [00:26:59] No jam, no butter. Listen, I always want to go for a waffle. Always. I love a waffle. But when I get me a waffle by myself? Always disappointed.

 

Sasheer [00:27:12] Oh.

 

Nicole [00:27:12] And I think it’s because there’s nothing really savory about a waffle. It’s all sweet. So, when I go out with people–table waffle.

 

Sasheer [00:27:19] Oh, waffle for the table?

 

Nicole [00:27:21] Yeah, I love a table waffle or table cakes.

 

Sasheer [00:27:23] I don’t know– I guess because I keep clicking on these Instagram videos, but I’ve been fed a lot of Instagram videos of, like, different things you can do with a waffle iron. And they’ll just, like, put things other than, like, waffle mix in there. I saw one where someone put rice in there, and they made a little rice cake. And then they put sushi in the little holes–and avocado. And I was like, “This looks delicious.”

 

Nicole [00:27:52] Maybe Instagram’s trying to inspire you to cook.

 

Sasheer [00:27:55] They can’t get me.

 

Nicole [00:27:58] They’re never going to get you.

 

Sasheer [00:27:59] I’ll never cook.

 

Nicole [00:28:00] You’ll never, ever cook. You’re like… So, Carrie Bradshaw on Sex and the City also famously doesn’t cook. And she would store things in her oven. Maybe you should store stuff in your oven.

 

Sasheer [00:28:12] Maybe I could, but you think I have pots and pans to store? I don’t really have anything in my kitchen.

 

Nicole [00:28:17] No, she would put, like, shoes in there.

 

Sasheer [00:28:18] Oh, that’s– I think that’s strange.

 

Nicole [00:28:20] Oh, okay. No waffles.

 

Sasheer [00:28:25] Waffles are for the table, not for her.

 

Nicole [00:28:27] Yeah. And then a smoothie bowl–I just started getting into them. Yogurt with granola–just discovered granola about four years ago. Breakfast sandwich… Can you scroll up a little? You know, I think I may have to go with the breakfast sandwich.

 

Sasheer [00:28:45] That’s what I was going to say.

 

Nicole [00:28:46] You can say it.

 

Sasheer [00:28:47] I’m going to say it.

 

Nicole [00:28:48] Yes! Savory queens in the house. We said, “Give me an egg, and give me some bread. Give me some meat, and slap on some cheese.” That’s a breakfast sandwich. Yum, yum, yum. There was no way you could follow that because I surprised myself.

 

Sasheer [00:29:16] “Choose something to drink with your breakfast.”

 

Nicole [00:29:19] Ew. “Orange juice.”

 

Sasheer [00:29:19] You don’t like orange juice?

 

Nicole [00:29:20] No. Well, okay. There is an addendum. It has to be freshly squeezed.

 

Sasheer [00:29:26] That makes sense.

 

Nicole [00:29:27] I cannot do it out of a jug or a carton or from a grocery store. That shit’s nasty, especially when it’s pulpy. What the fuck are we all doing? Hoo hoo! Why?

 

Sasheer [00:29:38] I have oranges in my yard.

 

Nicole [00:29:41] You do?

 

Sasheer [00:29:41] Yeah.

 

Nicole [00:29:42] I never knew.

 

Sasheer [00:29:43] They don’t come around all the time. It’s only, like, part of the year. And I pick them. And I think I picked them too early. But you can still drink it. I bought, like, an orange juicer. And you have to squeeze so many oranges for any juice. I had, like–I don’t know–15 oranges. I got, like, half a cup.

 

Nicole [00:30:08] Yeah. It’s pretty wild.

 

Sasheer [00:30:09] It’s wild. I was like, “Ooh, this is going to last me a while.” No. I had one serving.

 

Nicole [00:30:16] But was it sweet and yummy?

 

Sasheer [00:30:18] It was a little tart because they were, like, a little early. But still really good.

 

Nicole [00:30:23] Oh, I love freshly squeezed orange juice. You just never get it.

 

Sasheer [00:30:28] You just never get it.

 

Nicole [00:30:28] You know, people are always putting stuff in it and claiming it’s freshly squeezed when I know it’s Minute Maid. And nothing against the Minute Maid Corporation–

 

Sasheer [00:30:36] But they made it a minute.

 

Nicole [00:30:37] Yeah. I want someone to take their time. I want an Hour Maid.

 

Sasheer [00:30:45] That seems too long. “What are you guys doing? All you have to do is squeeze it.”

 

Nicole [00:30:45] Also, I heard that they put them in big vats, and then they dye it orange because it, like, sits for so long. It doesn’t go bad or anything because it’s in, like, airtight vats. But then it loses its color the longer it’s in there. And they dye it. Judith, can you look that up real quick to make sure I’m not lying to everyone?

 

Sasheer [00:31:08] Don’t be lying to everyone.

 

Nicole [00:31:09] I don’t want to lie to everyone. It’s okay if I lie to myself a little bit.

 

Sasheer [00:31:14] I wouldn’t be surprised. I’m sure they’re like, “Well, people aren’t going to believe it’s orange juice because it’s not actually orange.” Can cats drink orange juice?

 

Nicole [00:31:22] I mean, good question. Can they?

 

Sasheer [00:31:26] I think it’s Russia–they have made it so if you are a company that genetically modifies food, you are considered a terrorist.

 

Nicole [00:31:37] Whoa.

 

Sasheer [00:31:37] I know. It’s pretty harsh.

 

Nicole [00:31:38] That is really harsh because there’s a lot more terrorism you could do than GMOs.

 

Sasheer [00:31:43] Yes, this is true. But I guess it’s like it’s kind of an attack on the human body, and we let it happen here.

 

Nicole [00:31:53] It would be nice if things were labeled. Do you know what I mean? Because, like, organic is so loosey-goosey or, like, free range is also very loosey-goosey, But, like, tell me if you engineered this in a lab, please. And I learned about cuts of meat that you get in restaurants. Sometimes they’ll smush different cuts together. It’s like meat glue, and they glue it together. You ever cut a steak and been like, “Well, that came apart in a weird way.” That’s because it was glued together.

 

Sasheer [00:32:22] Oh no.

 

Nicole [00:32:23] Again, I might be lying.

 

Judith [00:32:24] I mean, you might be correct. “To further enhance, color manufacturers add up to 10% vividly colored Mandarin orange juice as well as pigment from orange peels.”

 

Sasheer [00:32:34] I guess at least it’s from oranges.

 

Nicole [00:32:35] Yeah, that’s nice.

 

Sasheer [00:32:36] And not just, like, dye.

 

Nicole [00:32:38] Now, can you look at meat glue?

 

Jordan [00:32:43] Are you talking about binder? So, like, deli meats–when you slice a piece of… I worked at a deli for, like, years. There’s binders in the deli meat to hold the meat together. If you were to get, like, a natural deli meat, when you go to slice it, it would just shred.

 

Nicole [00:33:01] Oh. No, I’m talking about steaks being glued together with meat glue.

 

Judith [00:33:06] It says “Meat glue is the rather unappetizing nickname of a product containing the naturally occurring enzyme transglutaminase. This enzyme has the power to link protein molecules to each other. Our bodies manufacture and use this–” So you’re talking about something where they keep the meat together.

 

Nicole [00:33:27] Yeah. Like, meat glue on a steak. We got to get to the bottom of food today!

 

Sasheer [00:33:34] We gotta.

 

Nicole [00:33:35] Food’s crazy?

 

Sasheer [00:33:37] Yo, food’s crazy.

 

Nicole [00:33:38] It’s wild.

 

Judith [00:33:40] “Meat glue is the industry standard. And chances are if you eat meat or even tofu, you’re consuming this binding agent on a monthly if not weekly basis.”

 

Nicole [00:33:50] Yikes. Wow.

 

Judith [00:33:56] They keep saying that it’s an enzyme that binds it together. So, yeah, it binds the meat together. How it’s made? “Most tTG is made from the coalition of bacteria using the blood enzyme from cows and pigs. Some tTG is also made by cultivating bacteria using vegetable and plant extracts. Most tTG are mixed with other ingredients, including gelatin and caseinate milk derivative.”

 

Nicole [00:34:27] Yikes.

 

Sasheer [00:34:29] That’s a lot of information.

 

Nicole [00:34:30] I feel like I should stop eating meat.

 

Jordan [00:34:31] Isn’t gelatin made out of horse hooves?

 

Nicole [00:34:36] What?

 

Jordan [00:34:36] Am I incorrect?

 

Nicole [00:34:36] Jell-O is made out of horse hooves?

 

Jordan [00:34:39] I’m pretty sure. Yeah.

 

Nicole [00:34:44] Hell no! Yikes. Why is everything nasty? Also, who the fuck was like, “Give me that hoof.”

 

Sasheer [00:34:50] Yeah. Who would have thought?

 

Nicole [00:34:52] “I got a treat for us later.”

 

Judith [00:34:55] “Gelatin is a protein obtained by boiling skin, tendons, ligaments, and/or bones with water. It’s usually obtained from cows or pigs.”

 

Jordan [00:35:04] This is worse than a hoof.

 

Nicole [00:35:09] Ew.

 

Jordan [00:35:10] They did say that if instead of, like, putting in collagen or injecting, you could eat Jell-O.

 

Sasheer [00:35:19] That’s really funny. You’re just, like, pounding Jell-O, like, “Well, it’s good for my skin.” Your tongue is always red. All right. Let’s get back to the quiz.

 

Nicole [00:35:29] Yeah, we learn too much.

 

Sasheer [00:35:31] Too much. I regret it.

 

Nicole [00:35:31] “Green juice.”

 

Sasheer [00:35:35] Oh, yeah. It’s “Choose what juice you want.” “Orange juice.”

 

Nicole [00:35:37] “Green juice.”

 

Sasheer [00:35:39] “Coffee.”

 

Nicole [00:35:40] “Milk.”

 

Sasheer [00:35:42] “Water.”

 

Nicole [00:35:42] “Tea.”

 

Sasheer [00:35:43] “Chocolate milk.”

 

Nicole [00:35:44] “I don’t feel like anything.” “I don’t feel like anything is a very funny–

 

Sasheer [00:35:49] “I don’t feel like anything.”

 

Nicole [00:35:51] It’s like, “I think you need a therapist and not a drink.”

 

Sasheer [00:35:53] Yeah. Like, “Are you okay?”

 

Nicole [00:35:55] “What’s happening?” Can I guess what I think you’re going to do? It’s one of two. I think it’s either tea or water.

 

Sasheer [00:36:00] Those are really good guesses. I’m going to say tea.

 

Nicole [00:36:05] Wow. And I’m going to say coffee. I am trying to get into juice. You saw me try. I asked if there was any added sugar in this juice. And I got it, and it was so sweet. And I was like, “There was added sugar in this, and I asked.” And she lied to me.

 

Sasheer [00:36:21] She didn’t understand the question.

 

Nicole [00:36:22] And I still tipped her. “Now, lunch.”

 

Sasheer [00:36:26] “PB&J.”

 

Nicole [00:36:29] “Udon.”

 

Sasheer [00:36:30] “Salad.”

 

Nicole [00:36:31] “Panini.”

 

Sasheer [00:36:32] “Sub sandwich.”

 

Nicole [00:36:33] It’s not a sub sandwich in that picture, but… “Avocado toast.”

 

Sasheer [00:36:38] “Sushi.”

 

Nicole [00:36:38] “Smoothie.”

 

Sasheer [00:36:41] I might do a panini.

 

Nicole [00:36:42] Ooh, yes! Okay. I think I’m going to do a salad. I love a salad.

 

Sasheer [00:36:50] You love a salad.

 

Nicole [00:36:51] Lettuce, tomatoes, cucumbers, avocado, sometimes quinoa, chicken, a little bit of ranch.

 

Sasheer [00:37:02] That sounds good.

 

Nicole [00:37:03] It’s maybe my favorite salad. Not maybe–it is. Did I say bacon?

 

Sasheer [00:37:09] No, you didn’t.

 

Nicole [00:37:10] Bacon.

 

Sasheer [00:37:10] Nice. “Now eat dinner.”

 

Nicole [00:37:13] “Salmon.” I know what you’re choosing.

 

Sasheer [00:37:16] “Tacos.”

 

Nicole [00:37:17] “Spaghetti and meatballs.”

 

Sasheer [00:37:18] “Pasta salad.”

 

Nicole [00:37:20] “Burger.”

 

Sasheer [00:37:21] “Pizza.”

 

Nicole [00:37:22] “Pork chop.”

 

Sasheer [00:37:23] “Thai curry.”

 

Nicole [00:37:24] Ooh, Thai curry is good. Oh my God. What am I choosing?

 

Sasheer [00:37:30] Um, it’s going to be really hard for me, but I think I’m going to choose maybe the salmon.

 

Nicole [00:37:35] It’s incredible how much salmon you eat.

 

Sasheer [00:37:38] I eat a lot of salmon. I had it last night.

 

Nicole [00:37:39] You love salmon. I need to pivot to eat more fish, I think. I think it would do good for skin, me. I think it would do good for my skin. What a wild way of saying that.

 

Sasheer [00:37:57] “Skin, me.”

 

Nicole [00:37:58] “Skin, me.” Also, I think it’s supposed to be less… Or maybe it’s a good fat or something?

 

Sasheer [00:38:05] Yeah, I think so.

 

Nicole [00:38:06] And I think I need to introduce more good fats in my life, as opposed to saturated fat. I don’t know. Listen, I’m trying to, like, be healthy and live.

 

Sasheer [00:38:17] I think that’s great.

 

Nicole [00:38:18] It’s really exhausting.

 

Sasheer [00:38:19] Yeah. Sounds like it.

 

Nicole [00:38:20] Because I didn’t used to live like that. I used to live with wild abandon. I’ll eat fucking dirt.

 

Sasheer [00:38:27] And it was really problematic. I was like, “Get out of the dirt!”

 

Nicole [00:38:30] I was like, “Om-nom-nom. The flowers don’t need it. I do!” I think I’m going to say a burger. I really do love a burger. I need to eat less of them. They’re so good, though.

 

Sasheer [00:38:42] They’re so good.

 

Nicole [00:38:42] Yummy. “How about a dessert?”

 

Sasheer [00:38:44] “Ice cream.” “Fruit tart.”

 

Nicole [00:38:49] “Chocolate chip cookie brownies.”

 

Sasheer [00:38:53] “Berries and cream cake.”

 

Nicole [00:38:57] “Hot cakes.”

 

Sasheer [00:38:59] “Crepes.”

 

Nicole [00:39:03] “No thanks.” I scream, you scream, we all scream for ice cream! I love ice cream.

 

Sasheer [00:39:10] You do love ice cream.

 

Nicole [00:39:11] Oh my God. It brings me joy. I regret not getting TCBY at the airport. I really think I should have just treated myself.

 

Sasheer [00:39:21] Yeah. It was, like, morning time.

 

Nicole [00:39:24] It was. Morning ice cream is always strange because you’re like, “Am I living a good life? Am I making good choices?” But I love soft serve.

 

Sasheer [00:39:37] Yeah. I think I’m going to do that brownie. What was it? The…?

 

Nicole [00:39:41] “Chocolate chip cookie brownie.”

 

Sasheer [00:39:42] Sounds delicious.

 

Nicole [00:39:43] It does sound good.

 

Sasheer [00:39:47] I like chocolate chip cookies. But in brownie form? It’s, like, soft and thicker? Yummy.

 

Nicole [00:39:52] Soft, thick desserts are good.

 

Sasheer [00:39:57] “Finally, would you care for a midnight snack?”

 

Nicole [00:40:01] “Chocolate bars.”

 

Sasheer [00:40:02] “Gummy candy.”

 

Nicole [00:40:03] “Cookies.”

 

Sasheer [00:40:04] “Fruit.”

 

Nicole [00:40:05] “Pretzels.”

 

Sasheer [00:40:06] “Lollipop.”

 

Nicole [00:40:07] A lollipop? “Chips.”

 

Sasheer [00:40:09] “No, but thanks for asking.”

 

Nicole [00:40:10] Who’s sucking on lollipops at midnight? That’s committed. You made a choice.

 

Sasheer [00:40:15] Yeah. You’re committed to this for a while.

 

Nicole [00:40:16] Yeah. Unless you’re, like, a cruncher. But then why a lolly? I want to enjoy my lolly.

 

Sasheer [00:40:26] How often are you enjoying lollies?

 

Nicole [00:40:28] Every now and again, I really indulge, and I say, “Mmm. This lolly.” I would say cookies.

 

Sasheer [00:40:38] I am going to say chips.

 

Judith [00:40:47] This is Sasheer’s.

 

Sasheer [00:40:49] Okay. Soulmate. This is the name of my soulmate. “Isaa,” which I’ve never heard before, “or Isaac,” because I guess they’re like, “Let’s find the feminine version of Isaac. Isaa.” “This person is very fun to be around. When you’re sad, this person will do everything to make you feel better.”

 

Nicole [00:41:09] That’s nice.

 

Sasheer [00:41:11] That is nice.

 

Nicole [00:41:11] Oh my God.

 

Judith [00:41:12] This is Nicole’s.

 

Nicole [00:41:12] “Maria or Marcus. They’re very romantic. They’ll love showing you that they love you. This person would do anything for you to make sure that you’re happy.”

 

Sasheer [00:41:24] Wow.

 

Nicole [00:41:24] That’s nice. Oh my God, Maria, or Marcus.

 

Sasheer [00:41:28] Did that medium–?

 

Nicole [00:41:30] No. Different letter. But, you know, one of them is right–a medium or BuzzFeed.

 

Sasheer [00:41:40] Hard to say.

 

Nicole [00:41:42] Who knows? Should we help the people?

 

Sasheer [00:41:56] Let’s help the people! Yes.

 

Judith [00:41:59] Well, speaking of medium, you had a medium come through on the show.

 

Nicole [00:42:03] Yes. I would love to hear about it.

 

Judith [00:42:06] All right.

 

Caller [00:42:09] Hi, Nicole and Sasheer and everyone who makes this awesome podcast. I’m sorry if I sound tired. I just woke up. I’m the psychic interviewer, and I had a dream that I did an energy healing with Nicole. And I would normally only ever do an energy healing when given permission, but it felt really intense, and it felt like something might happen. So, I just wanted to put it out there so that you could stop it if you didn’t like it. But I had a dream, Nicole, that we met, and you told me about wanting to find love. And I asked you to imagine what it would feel like to have that love in your life and have that relationship. And then I asked you to point to where the cord was, where your heart was connected to theirs. And I pulled on the cord to bring him closer to you. And you tried to pull in the cord with me, but I stopped you because right now you’re just supposed to feel good and enjoy your fucking life because your life is awesome. So anyways, I’m sorry for accidentally doing that, but I hope it yields the results that you want. And if you change your mind and you don’t want that love right now, that’s fine. You can just walk away, or you can just keep missing him. But I feel that they are nearby. I don’t know if it’s a him, honestly. But yeah, I felt like they were nearby, and I hope that the dream work I accidentally did on you really did help. And I hope that you guys are all great and have a wonderful day. And thank you for the podcast.

 

Nicole [00:43:44] Wait. She said I tried to pull them closer to me and she wouldn’t let me?

 

Sasheer [00:43:48] Yes.

 

Nicole [00:43:49] Why?

 

Sasheer [00:43:49] Because she was doing the work, and all you have to do is sit back and let it happen.

 

Nicole [00:43:52] Oh, okay. Wow. I interpret that really differently. I was like, “Just enjoy my life? But I want love! I want someone to love me.” So, I’m supposed to just enjoy my life and then she’s going to pull me somebody?

 

Sasheer [00:44:04] I think so. Yeah.

 

Nicole [00:44:06] Okay.

 

Sasheer [00:44:07] Yeah. Or I think mostly it’s, like, yeah, you sit back and, like, let it happen–as opposed to, I guess, being active.

 

Nicole [00:44:16] Okay.

 

Sasheer [00:44:18] Yeah.

 

Nicole [00:44:19] All right. That was nice.

 

Sasheer [00:44:20] Yeah, that is nice.

 

Nicole [00:44:21] Thank you.

 

Sasheer [00:44:22] Maybe it will work. Who knows?

 

Nicole [00:44:23] I hope so.

 

Sasheer [00:44:25] Maybe this person will pull a Maria or a Marcus towards you.

 

Nicole [00:44:29] And I’m ready for a Maria or a Marcus. “Hey, Marcus.” “Hey, Maria.”

 

Sasheer [00:44:35] Yeah. How’s that feel? How’s that feel rolling off your tongue? Could you see yourself doing that every day?

 

Nicole [00:44:40] “Marcus? I’m hungry.”

 

Sasheer [00:44:43] “Marky…”

 

Nicole [00:44:44] “Maria, can we please leave? People are waiting on us.”

 

Sasheer [00:44:48] Now, you’re starting fights with them.

 

Nicole [00:44:51] “Marcus, I can’t believe you did that!” “Oh my God. No, Marcus, I don’t want to see your mother today.” “Maria, your sister really made me upset.” Yeah, these are good. I like them.

 

Sasheer [00:45:06] Nice.

 

Nicole [00:45:06] Bigger, please. Can you make it the whole screen? Yeah, stretch out those sides. That sounded nasty.

 

Sasheer [00:45:15] Yeah. “Stretch out those sides.” Is that what you’re going to say when you touch a bird?

 

Nicole [00:45:23] Some people will really be concerned. “What? What are you doing?”

 

Sasheer [00:45:33] “Stretch out those sides…”

 

Nicole [00:45:34] “Hey, Nicole and Sasheer. Love you both and the whole crew. My query is about our relationship. For a while now, I’ve been wanting to try the bleached brow look. I’ve gone back and forth about the decision, asked friends, asked my…” How do you say that word?

 

Sasheer [00:45:51] “Esthetician?”

 

Nicole [00:45:53] Oh. “Asked random people, and also asked my boyfriend’s opinion. Most say, “Hell, yes! Go off.” But my boyfriend had a pretty strong stance that he does not like it. There are most things he can understand, but ‘bleached brows is not one of them,’ to quote him.”

 

Sasheer [00:46:06] “I repeatedly would ask him, ‘What if I bleached my brows?’ hoping he would eventually respond with: ‘Do what you want to do. You look good no matter what.’ Anyways, it’s brows. It’s not that deep, and I bleach them. And I had to say I live, I love. But also, it’s definitely taking some getting used to. When I got home, he was so upset by the bleached brows, he left the house, came back three hours later, and he said he needed some time to process because he was bummed that his opinion was not taken into consideration. And he is bummed I didn’t give him a heads up that I was actually following through with this.”

 

Nicole [00:46:45] “Also, when I was in that chair getting my hair colored, it was a game time decision; I said, ‘Fuck it, let’s do it.’ I don’t know. So, my query is this: Would you have let your partner know you did this appearance change? Would you be mad at a partner who did an appearance change that you didn’t like? I truly can’t imagine anyone in my life doing an appearance change that I would 100% support. I love experimenting and gassing my friends up to do something unique and fun, and I’m feeling really shocked, bewildered, and offended by his reaction. Thoughts?”

 

Sasheer [00:47:23] Hmm.

 

Nicole [00:47:24] I don’t love the reaction.

 

Sasheer [00:47:26] I don’t love that reaction either.

 

Nicole [00:47:28] Because it’s not his body.

 

Sasheer [00:47:31] And, like, she did consider the opinion of her boyfriend but doesn’t have to take it. That’s like, “Okay, here’s one opinion of many, including my own. And I wanted to bleach my brows, so I went and bleached my brows.”

 

Nicole [00:47:46] Yeah. I think I would prefer my partner to, like, roast me–like fun roasts. Something silly. And then if it, like, bothered me, I’d be like, “Hey. I like it. Can you, like, cool off with it?” But leaving for three hours seems so dramatic.

 

Sasheer [00:48:03] Very dramatic. Yeah.

 

Nicole [00:48:04] And I can’t imagine anyone in my life having that much, like, thoughts about my appearance. That would make me feel some type of way to be like, “Well, if something out of my control changed about my appearance, how would you react? Yeah, like, maybe a thyroid problem, and I started gaining weight or losing weight or something that changed my appearance. Are you going to get mad at me over that?”

 

Sasheer [00:48:33] That’s a good point because people get older, we change, you change your mind. Like, our appearance is fleeting, so if this is how this person’s reacting now over eyebrows… I don’t know. That’s not a good sign.

 

Nicole [00:48:48] Yeah, I don’t love it. And I think you deserve to be with someone who is easy breezy and supports your decisions. They don’t have to like everything you do, but I think being supportive is important.

 

Sasheer [00:49:00] Yeah. Yeah. I mean, you can express that. Like, “Hey, this actually makes me feel good. It’s a fun experiment. I might change the color of the eyebrows. I might not. But I would like for you to be cool with that because I made a decision about my own body that really doesn’t have anything to do with you.”

 

Nicole [00:49:18] Yeah. And then maybe also bring up, like, “If you wanted to shave your head or dye your hair, I would be supportive. You want to start wearing nail polish, I would support you. I would like to support you, and I would like you to support me.” I think it’d be a nice conversation to have. Or maybe ask, “Is it just the fact that I did it and you didn’t want me to? Or is there something else?”

 

Sasheer [00:49:41] Oh, yeah. There might be something else underneath that.

 

Nicole [00:49:43] And also, to me, it dips into a bit of control. Like, he said no about your appearance, you did it anyway, and he’s mad that you defied him? Maybe I’m reading too much into it. Maybe also take a deep dive and see if there’s anything else in a relationship like that. Like, you’re like, “I’m thinking about getting the steak,” and he’s like, “No, you should get chicken.” Do you get the chicken, or do you get the steak? And does he get mad?

 

Sasheer [00:50:12] Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. I did have a boyfriend who shaved his beard and didn’t tell me and then showed up with a hairless face. And I was like, “Oh… Oh!” We met under the pretenses that this is a bearded face, and then there was no beard. And I was like, “Wha–? Wha–? Look at that.” I had to, like, analyze my own feelings. “Am I okay with this face without a beard? I should be. I love this face. But also, this isn’t the face I signed up for.” So, I don’t know. And yeah, I didn’t get a heads up or a warning. The face was just in my face. All of a sudden, I was like, “Huh… Okay.” And he was like, “I can tell you don’t like it.” And I was like, “It is different. It is different.” I think it was because it made him look younger or something? I don’t know. It was just different.

 

Nicole [00:51:17] That’s very funny. “Huh. Look at that.”

 

Sasheer [00:51:20] Huh. There’s a chin. Never thought I’d see that.”

 

Nicole [00:51:24] It’s interesting. Beards are like makeup for men because it can really change a man’s face. And dare I say, a beard improves a lot of men. Without a beard, a lot of men look nasty.

 

Sasheer [00:51:40] Yes, this is true. Yeah.

 

Nicole [00:51:41] You know what’s not nasty? Our email address!

 

Sasheer [00:51:46] Oh!

 

Nicole [00:51:47] In case you have a question, query, thoughts, whatever. nicoleandsasheer@gmail.com. We also have a numbie–that’s a number–for you to call, text, send voice memo. 424-645-7003.

 

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Nicole [00:52:24] Goodbye.

 

Sasheer [00:52:24] Oh, goodbye. You’re shaking my hand. Yes. Nice doing business with you.

 

Nicole [00:52:28] Nice doing business.